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Chapter 3

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Chapter 3

The crushing weight of nothing lighter than a large grizzly bear on a sled pinned me to the ground without warning. And before I realized I’d even been knocked over, the grizzly bear rolled off and was whimpering like a sick cub beside me. Simultaneous sensations spread throughout my body, one of being sucker punched and the other, of being massaged down my left leg by a large cactus. The pins and needles peppered across my flesh like quickly blinking Christmas lights. Out of place ones. Like those random single color red ones that lined just half the length of our neighbor’s house when I was a child. I stammered on, once again attempting to hold back another round of curse words, which I will, as usual not color the page with.

A monstrous woman’s voice hailed from the hill beside me, a hill I did not even notice until after I was mauled by that grizzly bear going midnight sledding.

“Jake! I told you to be careful!” A red coat emerged from the snow next to me. The grizzly bear was none other than a child not exceeding three feet tall and clearly going by the name of Jake.

“Get in the house, now!”

A gentler voice, that of a man approaching, followed.

“Hey little man, you okay?” The man shuffled quickly over from a neighboring yard, lifting the wild little grizzly cub and standing him on his two feet. The child wiggled free from his grasp, said nothing, grabbed his much-too-large tobogan, and ran up the hill to his berating mother.

“You know that tobogan—” his voice trailed off in resignation. And to himself, he uttered, “is mine.” The man shrugged, clearly used to his next door Dennis the Mennis.

I sat up the best I could under the snow and began the futile business of dusting the slush off my legs from the underside of my lower pant legs. I shuddered when my hand made contact with my left shin. It was hard to see, but I was almost certain it was bleeding. A warm liquid sensation, contrasting greatly with the cold wetness from the snow, spilled out from the wound. The pain was almost agonizing. Almost—simply because the adrenaline of my overall situation, that of being lost in a snowstorm, in the middle of the night, in a strange town, alone, kept me from dwelling too much on the impact of the crash.

At the sound of my grunt, the man suddenly noticed my peculiar presence in the middle of the midnight snow.

“Oh goodness.You okay!?” The man, about thirty years old, if I could guess right through the concealment of the dark, begged, concern in his voice. He rushed at me with an outstretched hand, a hand that I readily accepted, careful to respond with my left, less injured hand. Despite the situation, I couldn’t help but notice how small my hand felt in his and how gentle, yet firm his grip was. Per usual, without much forethought, I casually glanced at his left hand to look for a ring. Of course it was pointless, given he was wearing gloves. Like a sane person would. Unlike myself.  

“Do you live nearby?” he questioned. I shook my head, delivering a quiet laugh at the whole of my circumstances and the the difficulty I would have at explaining my situation and the series of unfortunate events that landed me here in this very moment. After a moment of awkward laughter on my part, and no doubt awkward incomprehension on his, I replied.

“You know those moments we often console ourselves in the middle of by telling ourselves, ‘When we look back at this in ten years, we’re gonna laugh?’

He gave a nodding grin. “Sure.”

“Well, that’s my night,” I said confidently with an awkward laugh. And with that laugh, I bared into my left leg, attempting to walk, and instantly, it gave way to gravity pulling me straight towards the ground. I shrieked at the pain.

Unbelievable.

In complete astonishment, I found myself suddenly caught and quite literally whisked into the air and into the arms of this unexpected man. My shriek was followed by a yelp at the surprise, and though the pressure of him holding me as if carrying me across a wedding threshold multiplied my leg pain, sudden warmth at being held as if being carried across a wedding threshold filled my stomach and made the pain inconsequential.

Yet, my independent and cautious nature led me to struggle against the assistance.

“It’s okay,” I assured him as I pulled away, trying to get down. His strength was impressive as I’m not what you may consider a small boned lady. I definitely had enough meat on my bones to feel awkward at being carried, but the ease at which he seemed to carry me gave me some unexpected comfort.

“You can’t walk.” He stated very matter of factly, as if his words settled the matter. “Where do you belong?”

I laughed at the question, again thinking of my present circumstance, but understanding his meaning, simply responded, “My car broke down and I got snowed out of it. I live two hours away.”

He turned to me with a look that could only be described by “Seriously?” or perhaps, “You’ve got to be kidding me.” It wasn’t an angry look though. He uttered a quiet, audible laugh and turned his tracks towards the house at the top of the hill.

The situation I was in wasn’t lost on me. I very well knew that I was in the arms of a strange man and about to enter his house with little ability to escape should I need to. I had no knowledge of what was held inside, whether it be a lair where he kept women chained up in the basement or a cozy cabin with a cheerful wife and three adoring children. Or perhaps, he was just a bachelor waiting for the woman of his dreams to show up injured and in need of a knight and shining armor at the edge of his driveway in the middle of a romantic snowy December night. I was hoping for the latter but would have happily settled for the former.

But still, he could be serial killer.

Unable to do anything but hope and being thoroughly impressed by the ease at which he carried me up the hill, I relaxed momentarily and drank in his fragrance. He smelled of fire but not like a fireplace or like a burning building. Like a cologne with a burning sweetness. I found myself pressing my face into his neck, not so forcefully as to be noticeable by him, but enough to block the wind a bit and to feel the heat of his 5:00 shadow.

Ch. 3 to be continued ____________________________________

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Repatriating: Day One

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Updated on 5/20/2017 for grammar, punctuation, and mechanics.

I was sitting in the passenger’s seat of my sister’s SUV, staring out the window at the fields of grass as we passed them by. Cows. Stacks of hay. The occasional barn. And the tears began to flow.

She had just picked me up from the airport. My last flight from China, my home for the past five years.

My nephews were in the back seat — my suitcases were stacked in the hatchback trunk with my cat’s crate tucked snugly between them. The occasional meow could be heard through all the cargo, as the boys craned their necks up and back as far as they could to look at the newest member of the family, my adopted Chinese cat-son. My most expensive souvenir.

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Just after I was picked up from the airport

I’d been waiting for this moment since the previous summer when my sister and her family moved to this small town in the country. I had just returned from another summer of whirlwind world traveling and was able to visit her in her new town for two days before it was time to catch my flight back to my other world — China.

I knew when I had gotten on the airplane that summer to head back to China that it would be my last year. I sensed it in my spirit — and after a long hard and amazing school year, it was finally over.

I couldn’t even count the number of nights that last year in China that I sobbed myself to sleep because I wanted nothing else but to snap my fingers, be done with China, and back home in Virginia. And yet, there I was: landed, through customs, in the car, with my cat, and on my way “home” when the tears began to seep through my tired, burning eyes.

A few minutes before the tears began, I had warned my sister:

 

“Just so you know, repatriating is rumored to be one of the most difficult and stressful challenges people face in life. They say it is really hard and there is nothing that the surrounding family can do to help. So be warned. I’m beyond happy to be home, but I’m beyond grieved to be leaving China. I had a whole life there and a whole community and family that I may never see again. And I’m so excited to finally be home. And I feel everything. Joy. Sadness. Excitement. Grief. Anticipation. Loss. All at the same time. I’m going to be emotional, and I don’t know when or how, but you won’t understand. You can’t. And it’s not your fault. It just is.”

“Okay,” she replied.

“Okay.” I nodded and peered out the window. And just as quickly as the thoughts surfaced in my mind, Oh. Oh no. I can’t leave, the floodgates opened. I began to panic, mildly hyperventilating, and vocalized my suffering. “I’m stuck! I can’t escape. I’m really here. I’m really here. I’m really here.”

Without shame, with tears streaming down my face, I looked my sister in the eye. She gently grabbed my hand, held it and continued to drive.

This was just over one month ago. I’m still processing what it is like to repatriate. I haven’t settled into a new life yet, but I’m starting to feel like I’ve begun settling out of my old life. I’m in transition. I have a new job, but I haven’t started it yet. I’ve found a church, but I don’t know anyone yet.

I’m no longer sleeping on the couch of my sister’s house, but I am still sleeping on an air mattress on my nephew’s bedroom floor. I no longer have my own kitchen, but I am sharing my sister’s kitchen… and neither of us like to share our kitchen… something about me not believing in recipes and washing dishes in a “weird way.”

We haven’t gotten around to clearing out the basement where I will live for the next year, but I am here, sleeping on the floor of an eleven year old’s room, washing my own dishes, missing my housekeeper, running out of money, grateful I have a wonderful job starting soon, already living paycheck to paycheck, and just trying to figure out how to repatriate and be… an American again.

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The Ultimate Guide to a Bipartisan Friendship: Part 1

Let’s watch a movie together. A movie about religion, politics, and hotly debated social issues. Here it is:

I must confess. I was once one of those Christians who truly believed that Jesus would’ve been a Republican. And even when I learned that this was not necessarily the case, deep down, far down- but not actually that far down, I still believed it.

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I know.

I know.

I don’t know. Trying to climb out of this box.

Why? You probably guessed it. Abortion.

Jesus values all life, and that includes life in the belly. I am reminded constantly of Psalm 139:13

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

Now, here is another confession. It is primarily and sometimes, solely, for my prolife conviction that I have chosen to support the Republican party with my votes and occasional campaigning. Not that there are not other issues I look at, but this has been my deal breaker. And here is why…

A friend verbalized it once and it made sense and resonated with my deepest convictions, so I took it in and made it part of my… logic… process… She said, “If a candidate does not value the very thing he or she swears to defend and protect, ‘life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness,’ how can they be trusted? How can we trust the moral compass of one who would allow or even promote the ending of life.”

Sealed it. Never would I even consider voting for a pro-choice candidate. And this was my reason.

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PAUSE.

 

PONDER.


FAST-FORWARD 8 YEARS.

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MAKING MY MERRY WAY ALONG LIFE.

STOP ON MARCH 8, 2016. 8:00 PM [BEIJING TIME].

PLAY

I was recently at dinner with one of my many Democrat-Christian friends. The Trump debate was freshly stale and still popularly effervescent [just to set the background]. She said something that rocked my world. She recounted a conversation she herself had years ago with one of her Republican-Christian friends. [Labels are so important to us, aren’t they?]

Her friend said, “I don’t see how anyone can call themselves a Christian and be a Democrat.” Stop the music. Some of you are nodding your heads in agreement. Some of you are ready to smash the screen.

“Well, I don’t see how anyone can call themselves a Christian and be a Republican,” my friend said back. Stop the music again. Stop it faster. Everyone’s face should look about like this now.

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I admit it. While she was telling me this story. Shock came over me... She doesn’t know how anyone can call themselves a Christian and be a Republican? This HAS GOT to be good, I thought.

Now, I thought she was trying to make a point, so I stayed with her. [She had also taken me out to celebrate my birthday together and this was our dinner conversation, so obviously I stayed with her. Delicious Italian food! Thanks friend!]

She asked her Republican friend why she felt the way she did and her response, like many others including myself was about abortion and the sanctity of life.

Nodding in agreement. 

Then like clockwork, she very calmly told me her response to the question of why she said she didn’t know how Christians could be Republicans. “Well, I don’t think we should take the life of anyone, not people in the womb and not people in other countries with our wars.” [subtext: wars that Republican candidates tend to promote more than Democrat candidates].

I stopped.

I pondered.

huh.

Please stop with me. Please ponder.

There are so many aspects of both abortion, war, the death penalty etc. that could be explored in the debate over which political party is “best,” but can we just take a moment and reflect on this. Can we just reflect on what can happen when we calmly listen to one another and consider the meaning of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness from another person’s point of view? Can we just stop trying to be heard for a moment and listen, really listen? All of us, no matter what political or religious affiliation we have. But even as the Body of Christ, fellow Christians, can we just stop and listen to understand? We don’t need to change our party, our denomination or our convictions, but we can still connect and love without placing such harsh judgements on our fellow humans for seeing things differently.

Jesus values all life, even life in the prison cell. Even life in countries vastly different from our own. Even Muslims. Even Jews. Even nonreligious. Even the Democrats/Republicans who also dare to call themselves Christians. Even you.

The movie is not over folks, but I think that’s enough for tonight.

God speed.

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Note: The title of this blog was changed from “Just a light post about politics, religion, & you… can’t trump that” to “The Ultimate Guide to a Bipartisan Friendship: Part 1” on March 17, 2016

Why aren’t you married yet?

We were sitting around the table in the upstairs corner of the Coffee Shop and the topic of my singleness came up. It often does. I was the only unmarried woman at the table. I had just finished explaining that in fact I do have the desire to get married and have children, when excitedly, one of my friends asked me what my favorite number was. I told her it was seven and in the next breath, she told me with no scientific accuracy but with a giant smile across her face that I would get married at 37 because her favorite number is 3 and she got married at 33. Seems logical…

Now being 30, having hoped I would already have gotten married by now, my heart sank at this knowledge- because even though it wasn’t actual knowledge, it was unscientific girl gossip, at a Bible Study no less, it still felt declared. “Don’t prophesy THAT over me!” I exclaimed to her. In my mild freak out my other friend, sensing my distress at the possibility of another seven years of singleness, jumped in to curb my anxiety and fear and very coolly argued that I could just get married in 2017. Better yet, I could get married in July, maybe even this July! We laughed and moved on and that was the end of that.

UNTIL I had a different group of friends over to my apartment four days later, also all married women from church. Sitting on my couch, talking about life, God, and their families, one of the women looked right at me and said, with a voice of undoubtedly innocent curiosity, “Why aren’t you married yet?” (I’ll save the tangent that question could lead me towards for a different blog post!) God bless her. I explained that I didn’t know. That she would have to ask God, and in fact, if she didn’t mind, she could go ahead and request to God on my behalf that my future husband would speed it up to me if she wanted (and by all means, you are invited to pray this as well). My three friends counseled me and suddenly, one of them blurted out, “Who knows when God will have you married!? No one knows! You could get married at 37!”

To my fellow single-and-waiting-for-seemingly-ever- ladies, you know that while this came from a place of reassurance, to a 30 year-old who has been waiting 7 years already since she decided she wanted to get married, it was a horrifying notion.

Now this time, it did feel like prophesy. Not that either statement was based on prayer or even advice but two unconnected people, mentioned I could or would get married at age 37 four days apart while in a group of Christian praying women (as was part of our purpose for meeting together).

The idea kept me awake for hours that night. A few days later a moment of clarity came.

I was walking through my living room and dared to entertain the thought- and I do mean dared because it was a conscious choice to go there in my head, to allow my mind to open up and consider this question because I would otherwise block out such sad nonsense. 37. Six more years of singleness. Dare not go there in my little mind.

The question: What if I knew I would get married at 37? If I knew with absolute certainty that I would get married at the age of 37, how would my life change today? I paced around my living room as the possibilities of what could be bubbled to the top. How would I live if I knew the gift of marriage was coming for sure and that it would arrive in just over six years, how would I live the next six years?

And suddenly, as if I just remembered that I had a slice of cake of my fridge (and forgive me while I run to the fridge because I did in fact just remember that I have a slice of cake in my fridge), I realized how AMAZING it would be! Imagine grocery shopping on pay day while you are extremely hungry. I began to pick up everything off the shelf of life to put in my cart. I would do everything! I would live my life to the fullest. I would work hard and not spend money frivolously for the next two to three years and get all my debt paid off. I would invest in a counseling degree, if I decided I still wanted one. I would focus on writing and publish my books. I would love and laugh with my friends and family in the peace of knowing that good things are both here and are coming in the future. I would not stress about whether or not they will ever happen. I would live joyfully with the belief in what I cannot prove and with the hope in what I cannot see. I would live out the faith to which have already been called.

Contrary to what I thought I would feel if I allowed myself to seriously contemplate that I may have six more years of singleness, I felt at peace!

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What!? This was a true epiphany.

Hebrews 11:1 (NIV) states, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for.”

This is what I should be doing anyway. This is how I should be living. I should not worry about if I will marry and when, I should live life to the fullest, in confidence and hope that good things are coming- if not how I think I want them to come, in an even better way.

If I knew that one of the, if not THE greatest desire of my heart for my time on earth would come true in six years, I would spend the next six years living life how God calls me to live it without fear that good things won’t come and without grappling to force them to happen before the right time.

It’s not that I didn’t already know I should do this. I knew. The Bible says. People told me. But I realized it in a new way, on a heart level when I allowed myself to go there in my head. When I went there even though I was afraid.

So that is how I will try to live the next six years, so that when I have my 37th birthday, married or not, He can finally say, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” (Matthew 25:21, 23 NIV)

And at 37, I will start again.

ps. Don’t go grocery shopping when you are hungry. The metaphor doesn’t really work if you think about it too much.


 

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On Suffering, A grain of hope & a plea to stop with the bad advice

Today, I found out that a childhood friend I have occasional Facebook contact with has not only one rare cancer, Histio, she has been fighting for years, but now two. She suffers daily as she fights the illnesses all while raising two beautiful children with her husband.

I was about to post another blog, when I read her Facebook update and this topic seemed more important. It reminded me of the message I heard in church today. It was about “In the meantime” moments by Andy Stanley. When our situations seem hopeless, when there is nothing we can do, when the odds are stacked against us. What do we do? What do we do when there is nothing we can do?

I approach this topic with a heavy heart, hesitantly, and treading lightly because I have no answers and I do not want to put anyone, including those who suffer with ailments and heart-aches I do not understand or God Himself, in a box. I will not pretend to have a cookie cutter answer. Suffering sucks. It hurts. It hurts the body. It hurts the heart. It just hurts.

However, I felt compelled to explore the idea of suffering briefly and see what God says about it. This is not a sermon, just an exploration. Maybe I’ll learn something.

So I did what any non-seminarian student of the Word would do when looking for verses on a particular topic. I googled it. I typed in “scriptures on suffering” and got eleven million hits in less than a half of a second. Clearly a topic of concern to all of humanity.

A lot of what I found was unhelpful.

God uses suffering to bring people into closer relationship with Him is a paraphrase of almost every site I clicked on. And while I do not think the statement is incorrect, for I have myself, drawn closer to God in the midst of my own emotional and spiritual seasons of suffering, it is not enough, and in fact can seem quite cruel to the non-Christian and even to many Christians. It cannot stand alone.

Another common response is that the world is sinful and with the entry of sin into the world all those years ago, sickness came to the earth and it just infects us. And one day, in Heaven all sickness will cease. This is also not inaccurate, but doesn’t provide much comfort right now.

Words, true words, can be used as a weapon if not used properly. Just look at the Pharisees. They knew the scriptures. They knew the facts. They quoted Moses correctly. And yet, they were dead wrong, and they killed Jesus. The point here? Truth without love isn’t truth at all.

Dedication

To the young couple whose child is hanging on for dear life in the NICU on a ventilator, with feeding tubes, repeated seizures, temperature spikes, and unknown brain activity

To the wife and mother who suffers daily with a chronic rare cancer, who battles the monster with chemo, diet, and every other possibly helpful treatment available just so she can see her babies swing on the playground and blow out their birthday candles

To the single teacher who was diagnosed with cancer, who is living in a foreign country away from all family, who serves as her sole financial provider, who must take unpaid leave to have and recover from surgeries

To the others who suffer in ways the world does not know:

You are heroes. True heroes. I do not understand for I have not walked in your shoes. I do not know why or what good will come from your pain, but I pray to God that He will allow you to see even a glimmer of good fruit produced from it.

Remember and give thanks

What I have learned this past year from seeing the people I love suffer is that every moment matters.

To the parent of a healthy child, treasure the day you bring your baby home from the hospital for the first time because it was a gift and not a guarantee. Each breath is a gift from God. Don’t feel guilty that your child is healthy while another parent’s child suffers to breathe. Just thank God for giving your child breath and remember to love and not judge those who have a different path.

To the woman whose annual health check came back normal once again. Give thanks for clear test results. Each heart beat is a gift from God. And remember those women who have a different result.

To each parent who is healthy enough to enjoy every moment of your child’s life, embrace it, for it is not a guarantee. And remember those families who have a different path.

Letting go of unhelpful advice and replacing it with truth

And for the love of all God’s people, let us all stop saying catchphrases such as “Let go and let God.” As someone who has tried to let go and let God do all kinds of things in her life and in her heart, this is not helpful.

I also encourage people to stop saying, “God will not give you more than you can handle.” I admit that I have been guilty of this! While well-intentioned (I believe or hope), it’s not Biblical. He always gives us more than we can handle. Sometimes, I can’t even handle getting through a normal day where my health is not in question, I can’t. I just can’t. The best advice I have heard and that replaces this phrase, came from the previously mentioned sermon by Andy Stanley. He suggests we say to God daily, “I can’t. I can’t. But God, you can.”

The Bible actually says in 1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

This verse is talking about temptation to act on sin. Suffering is not an act of sin. We may be tempted to sin as a result of our suffering, just like anything unpleasant could cause is to cope in unhealthy ways, but suffering is not a sin.

Regarding suffering, or rather mourning which I argue is directly related, the Bible does say this in Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”

Sometimes, we just can’t. We must and yet, we can’t. My friends who nearly lost their firstborn and one month later are still with him daily at the hospital couldn’t. They just couldn’t. And you know what, God never expected them to. God did. He comforted them.

Sometimes, we just can’t.

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Fall apart. Mourn the loss of what is no longer. It is okay to fall apart. Tell God you can’t but recognize, do not forget to recognize, that He can. He somehow enables those who suffer to manage life. It may not be how they would prefer, but people do it. They are heroes. And He does comfort the broken-hearted and the broken-bodied. I don’t know how. He’s just a very big God.

Sometimes, I fall apart in God’s lap, metaphorically speaking of course. I believe those are His favorite moments with me. They are definitely my most favorite moments with Him. Moments of truth. Parents like it when their children humbly admit the truth.

I had an experience some time ago where I was in a minor fender bender and it wasn’t my car. And insurance wasn’t covering it for reasons I will not get into. No one was hurt, but I caused it, and I couldn’t afford to fix it. I fell apart. I cried. And then I told my dad. He scooped me up in his arms and told me he would fix it. And I fought him because I wanted to do it on my own. I thought I deserved whatever consequence would come for not being able to fix it myself since I caused it due to “stupidity” I claimed. But the truth is I couldn’t. I had no money and definitely no skills. And no insurance. He had the skills and the tools. I let him fix it. It hurt because I didn’t know how it would turn out. But it turned out fine. He didn’t care that it was my fault. He didn’t care that he would lose an entire month’s rent to pay for the damage that I had caused. He is my papa and he could and did when I couldn’t.

And he is human. God is so much bigger than our humanness. He loves us more. He provides for us bigger.

Back to the other point- telling people to let go and let God is simply not enough and when we do it, we miss the point. Perhaps a better thing to say is to Squeeze God around His broad chest instead of using those arms to carry our burdens alone because when we let Him hold us, he naturally carries the weight of the burden too. Even that is philosophical to many many people, and unhelpful to a large part of the population.

I have no perfect advice or solution here just experiences, mine and a few from other people. And God’s Word. That’s supreme.

Through the suffering of my friend’s first born, through the love poured out to them through the church, through their friends, through their community, a lens was placed on them, and the love they have for Jesus Christ was witnessed by hundreds, if not thousands. People who have never trusted Christ started a discussion. I witnessed one of these discussions in my own classroom during lunch as students talked about and admired their steady faith.

I am not saying that we all suffer so we can be put on display, but when we do suffer, what if we could be real and honestly admit that we can’t handle it without the judgement of others being poured on us, without people telling us to be strong when we know we are not. What if we could hand our giant pain over to God and then climb up in his lap and cry.

So then, what can we do?

This article from Focus on the Family offers some advice to those around people suffering that (I think) might be helpful. You decide.

What can we do practically to help those who suffer? Give a dollar or 1000, whatever we can when they are in financial need. Pray unceasingly. Send them a note. Babysit. Play with their kids. Bring them a cup of tea and sit next to them in their own home. Remember them. Do not judge them.

And try to help find a cure. Support them by helping to bring awareness for the purpose of promoting empathy and increasing funds for research.

This was not a sermon. Just an exploration. And I learned something.

God be with you all.


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The Meaning of Graceful Persistence

She sat in the corner of the room with tears streaming down her face. Words came out that no one ever expected to hear. Her words told stories of abuse, sickness, depression, heart-ache and self-hatred. Another girl danced in circles in the middle of the room, seemingly oblivious to the pain that was diagonal to her. Pure, untarnished laughter poured from her lips. Giggles. Innocence- when in a moment their eyes met for the first time. Joyfulness met sadness and they became comrades. Together, they called themselves Peace. Neither of their lives were ever the same.

Jesus can bring joy to our hearts even through our suffering. He uses friends, strangers, and unsuspecting neighbors. The key is to open our eyes and see the people around us. See the need. Connect to the human housed in flesh even when that flesh does not match what we think it should.

Welcome to the very first posting of my blog, Graceful Persistence. What does Graceful Persistence mean and how is it relevant, you may be wondering. Well, it started as a screen name I had many years ago as I aimed to gracefully persist through life even in the tough times. I recall blubbering on the floor, saying stupid things, succumbing to peer pressure, clicking send impulsively, being filled with regret, and further hurting people by desperately trying to pick up the pieces of what I had done. I was not very graceful most of the time! (And still am not) Though it was quite persistent! I’ll return to the meaning of Graceful Persistence later on.

After years of wanting to write and dabbling with writing blogs, novels, and nonfiction, I’ve decided to formally start a publication where I take my passion for writing, the Bible, and mentoring youth and put them together. In Graceful Persistence, I will regularly share experiences as well as insights on life and scripture that I find valuable and maybe even helpful for those who come across my page.

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This blog is for anyone who finds the posts valuable; the audience who I think may find it most interesting are young women, as they are usually who I have in mind when crafting words simply because in writing and in life, I aspire to understand my own identity as a daughter of Christ and help younger women come to understand and embrace their identities as fellow daughters of Christ.

So back to the original question. What does Graceful Persistence mean to me these days? Remember the girl filled with sadness and heartache in the corner of the room? And my antics? Not so graceful. We are not always graceful or persistent as we journey through life. But there is someone who is always both. Graceful Persistence reflects the nature of God in His pursuit of us. We are hopeless, helpless, lost sinners stumbling through life, but Jesus Christ never gives up hope, never stops extending his helping hand, and is ever faithful to save when we reach back to Him. He is steady and unchanging. He is loyal and unwavering. He is always and forever graceful in His persistent pursuit of you and me.

This blog title is to remind us all that no matter what our circumstances, successes, or screw ups, He is Graceful Persistence even when we are not. And that my friends is a beautiful thing.

Thank you for reading my first blog post!


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© [B.D. Lyons] and [bdlyons.wordpress.com], [2016]. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Reblogging, excerpts, and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to [B.D. Lyons] and [gracefulpersistence.com] with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.