^{This is a written adaptation of a sermon given virtually to Trinity Christian Fellowship in Phnom Penh, Cambodia on October 08, 2022. Khmer Translation provided on site.}

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This week, we had a fire drill at work. It was a practice fire drill with only the teachers so that when we have one with the students the teachers will know how to help them. Our boss gave us each a map of where to stand, and based on my understanding of the map, I started helping to arrange teachers. Then, my boss came along and moved people. I began to playfully, but seriously argue with him about where we should stand based on what the map says. Then he showed me part of the map that I had not noticed, proving that I was wrong. Of course I was wrong. He made the map!

It was a friendly conversation, and he suggested that maybe I should listen more. And he’s right.

I am often quick to voice my understanding of an issue and later find out that I only have some of the information. I need to listen better. And I think that most of us need to listen better.

In fact, scripture speaks of listening much more than we speak over and over again. Scripture even gives warnings, suggesting that we talk too much when we have not listened enough–and when we don’t listen enough we make judgements that are often wrong. And when we make judgements that are often wrong, we become angry very quickly. And when we are quick to anger, we are often quick to sin. So listening at least twice as much as we speak helps prevent us from falling into sin. As many have said, “We have two ears and one mouth for a reason!”

Let’s examine what the scriptures say about this:

James 1:19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20 Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. 21 So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.

 So why is it so important to be quick to listen? Not listening is the beginning of a path that leads to sin, and that is dangerous. Not listening is the opposite of humility–it’s related to pride.

Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ 23 Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’

It is God’s will that we do the will of the Father. That is how his true disciples will be identified from false disciples. And we have to listen to Him to find out what His will is.

So what is the will of God? James 1:27 says, Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.

Caring for orphans and widows, not letting the world corrupt us. Those are clear directions and it sounds a lot like the greatest commandment Jesus gave us in Matthew. 

Matthew 22:36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

How is this all connected? 

We are called to do the will of the Lord. We are called to pursue justice and be merciful. That is love. That is the will of God. We are called to do as He does. And we learn that by listening first with our two ears.

Do you know what else God does that we are supposed to also do? He Listens. 

Even God listens. God spends so much time listening to us, people who are so far beneath Him, who know so much less than Him, who are so much less intelligent and loving and capable than Him. But God is humble and gentle enough to listen to you and I day after day. 

Psalm 116:1-2 I love the Lord, because he has heard my voice and my pleas for mercy. Because he inclined his ear to me, therefore I will call on him as long as I live.

 Psalm 34:15 ESV The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous and his ears toward their cry.

Matthew 7:7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Here, Jesus is telling us to speak to Him–so He can listen. He wants to listen. We should want to listen too!

God is not asking us to do anything He does not practice Himself with listening. He is our greatest model. He listens to His people. And He listens, not just so He can tell us how we are wrong. He listens with compassion.

If God, creator of the universe listens to our cries and responds, how much more must we listen to others and respond. And how much more must we listen to God? How much more grace and mercy do we owe one another?

We do not have all the answers. We do not know what other people are feeling or how they are experiencing or feeling about events even if we were part of the event. We must remember that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

There is a proverb, a rule for carpenters when building a house: Measure twice, cut once. If you measure once, or worse, if you don’t measure at all and then cut a piece of wood, it will be the wrong size. You will waste materials and time and money. But if you measure it multiple times and make sure you really understand, then you will be accurate as you cut the wood.

It is the same as listening. When we speak before we understand a situation fully, we will make mistakes. Our decisions will be based on incomplete information. We must listen, ask questions, all to try to truly understand before speaking. 

James 1:19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 

And may we all grow in Godly communication, and through that love one another better.

Next week, I hope to explore the rest of the list: speaking and anger.